As a teenager, I suffered from low self-esteem. I had a problem believing in my abilities and
I always doubted myself. I was scared of
speaking up in class and taking on challenges because I was afraid of
failure. I preferred to do the things
that I was good at. I also spent a lot
of time berating myself for my mistakes which resulted in a negative mindset
and self- image. I preferred looking at
the glass as half empty so that if things didn’t work out like I had planned
then I would not be too disappointed. I
wasn’t willing to take the risk of charting new paths or coloring outside the
lines. This way of thinking hurt me when
I joined the university. It was a new
environment for me and I had to learn how to navigate university life, make new
friends, take tougher classes etc.
Thankfully, I loved the university experience and my self-esteem shot up
as a result. I began to speak up in
classes, participate in extra-curricular activities and take up challenging
tasks that forced me out of my comfort zone.
This in turn, made me more self-confident.
Self-esteem and self-confidence are intertwined because a
person with a low self-esteem will usually have low self-confidence. A woman with low regard for herself will
perceive herself as lacking the ability to face challenges and conquer them. The ability to believe that you can face
challenges and conquer them is called self-confidence.
The modern day workplace tends to reward people who take
risks, are innovative and bounce back from their failures. A woman who has grown up with a low
self-esteem will have a problem with all three of these. She may be innovative and be a master at
finding solutions to problems but if she lacks the confidence to speak up and
push her ideas forward, her innovations will go unnoticed by the decision
makers and she may never receive the credit that she deserves.
She may also be afraid of taking risks because of her
fear of failure. Taking calculated risks
is a major component of progressing at work.
Being a successful risk-taker, can result in huge rewards for the
company and for the risk-taker. A woman
with low self-esteem will be more inclined to fear the consequences of failure
rather than consider the rewards of taking the risk. She will also have a challenge bouncing back
from failure because she will take the failure personally. She will be ashamed of her failure and beat
herself up instead of patting herself on the back for daring to take a risk. She may also compare herself to others more
successful than herself and assume that they have never failed without
realizing that success often comes after failure.
A low self-esteem is detrimental to any woman who wants
to rise to the top of her career and live a full life. It is imperative that women learn how to grow
their self-esteem if they feel that they suffer from a lack of it.
Some ways of growing your self-esteem include:
1.
Practicing positivity – being intentional
about thinking positive thoughts about yourself and the environment that you
work in. When challenges arise, decide
to tackle them with a positive attitude.
2.
Trusting yourself – believe that you have
the ability to do whatever it is that you set your mind to do and succeed at
it.
3.
Do not compare yourself to others – believe
in your worth and work hard to reach your goals. Stop comparing yourself to your colleagues and
focus on achieving your success however you define it to be.
4.
Forget the past – move on from past failures
and disappointments. Take the lessons
learned from those experiences and implement them in your work.
5.
Acknowledge compliments – when your
supervisor or your colleagues compliment you for a job well done, accept the
compliment; do not deflect it by using terms like “it was beginner’s luck.”
6.
Help others – when you take the attention
off yourself and go out of your way to help others especially those that are
less fortunate than yourself, you will boost your morale from seeing others
succeed because of your help.
A high self-esteem is imperative in succeeding
not only in our careers but in life as well.
It is crucial that we grow our self-esteem, so that we can pursue and
achieve our goals and our life’s purpose.
This is how we will make a positive impact on those that are around us.
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